One common complaint of pregnancy is the plethora advice women receive, from family, friends, and even complete strangers. American Baby magazine has an article titled "Unwanted Advice & Other Pregnancy Dilemmas" that pointed out the 7 types of these "well-wishers" and how to respond (with dignity). I have yet to encounter most of these, and perhaps I never will! I dont know if I agree with their advice in all the cases, but its nice to have something out there trying to help us work around one of the occasionally uncomfortable aspects of pregnancy :)1) The Know-It-All
What: Individuals who comment on your size, how much you eat, what you eat, etc.
Response: Smile. To the size comments says "My doctor thinks I am just the right size, thanks"
2) The Boss
What: When shoud you tell your boss?
Response: Not until well clear of first trimester
What: What if you dont plan to return to work?
Response: Dont say a thing it if there is even a tiny chance your will return - say nothing about your uncertainty
3) The Watchful Ones
What: People you try to get you to reveal you are pregnant before you are ready (e.g. notice you arent drinking at a function, want to go out for sushi)
Response: Suggest alternative meals, that your are watching your weight, etc. Order drinks in a wine glass to fool those watching.
4) The Bad-News Bunch
What: People who feel compelled to share their terrifying birth stories
Response: Three options are given - make a joke like "lalalala I cant hear you", be direct and say "horror stories arent helpful to me right now", or stun them by saying "enough about your delivery, tell me about the conception!"
5) The Belly-Gropers
What: People who feel free to reach out and touch your belly, unsolicited
Response: suggest that you get hungry eating for two and might bite off their hand at the wrist, or touch their belly in return
6) The Busy-Bodies
What: Invasive questions such as "are you having and epidural? do you know that puts your baby at risk?"
Response: There is no point engaging, just say "thanks for your input" and/or "we are comfortable with our choice"...then change the subject.
7) The Pop-Ins
What: Family/friends coming over for "quick visits" the minute you get home from the hospital
Response: Be proactive, leave a message on your machine saying the family is resting and will invite them over soon. Post pics on the web to help everyone who wants to see the baby.
